The 5 Terrible Stages Of Crushing With 25 Terrific Songs To Get You Through It

by Ellie Riser

All of us have been there; you walk into a class, you look across a room, maybe you’re mid-conversation with one of your friends, when all of a sudden you lock eyes and it hits you: butterflies in your stomach, sweaty palms, hot cheeks, a huge grin, the whole nine yards. So, in spirit of what some would consider “cuffing season”, I’ve created a five song playlist for each stage to help you get through your sucky neurochemical imbalance. 

Stage 1: Catching of the feelings

This is when you start to notice someone in a new light. Suddenly, you find yourself asking around about a person, trying to find common interest–or things you could start to be interested in. Some people try to stop it and make it worse (me), while others free fall into the next stage…


  1. Catching Feelings – Justin Bieber 
  3. Can’t Be // How You Feel – Billy Lemos
  4. Bad Liar – Selena Gomez
  5. You Don’t Know My Name – Alicia Keys

Stage 2: Pure obsession 

 The part when you start to idolize your crush and they become the greatest human to ever exist. SOME even piece together their crushes schedule so they can purposely walk past them before and after every class. These five songs really encompass all those feels.


  1. Crush – Tessa Violet
  2. PUPPET – Tyler, The Creator
  3. Dreaming Of You – Selena 
  4. Rush – atm
  5. Your Love is My Drug – Ke$ha

Stage 3: Possessive n’ Protective

Stage 3 is when you see your crush talking to someone else and you become totally fixated on analysing the conversation. Are they laughing? Are they flirting? Should I say something? And if your friends say anything even slightly insulting to you about your special someone, you become extremely bitter. 


  1. IFHY – Tyler, The Creator
  2. Animal – Sir Chole
  3. Selfish – PnB Rock 
  4. break up with your girlfriend, i’m bored – Ariana Grande
  5. Hold Up – Beyoncé

Stage 4: “I could be their everything” 

This is all about the “if they just gave me a chance they would realize we’re meant to be” mentality. This stage is half heartbreak and half delusion, but there are some pretty fire songs to go with it.


  1. Lavagirl – haroinfather
  2. Let Me Love You – Mario 
  3. Pretty Girl – Clario
  4. Real Thing – Ruel
  5. Skin – Dijon

Stage 5: Crushed 

For most people this stage is the stage when you either get rejected or you come to your senses and realize, it’s never gonna happen. Now for some people it works out and everything is great blah blah blah, but for the rest of us, we need some serious healing. 


  1. Hawaiian Party – Cub Sport
  2. Missin You Crazy – Russ
  3. Love Is A losing Game – Amy Winehouse
  4. All Girls Are The Same – Juice WRLD