You really don’t, and none of us do. Here’s why that’s a good thing.
In the past year, we’ve all gotten to spend a lot of time with ourselves, maybe a little too much time. For me, COVID-19 was a blessing in a really, really, really good disguise. In fact, it led me to some Oogway-level revelations, my two favorites being: I don’t care and it doesn’t matter.
You probably came to this article to think about yourself, though. How can my journey towards self-enlightenment benefit you? Well, my little narcissist, I don’t really know, but hopefully, you can come to that conclusion yourself at the end of this article in which I will continue to talk about myself. I don’t get paid enough (at all) to give out free therapy. LOL.
Now let’s get one thing straight: empathy is important, caring is not. I do not care to hear about your day, I do not care about your recent post on Instagram, and I certainly do not care about how much you hate school. Why? Because I’m too busy caring about my day, my Instagram posts, and how much I hate school. I will continue to only care about myself until a situation presents itself in which I need to be empathetic. Until then, I really don’t care.
Some of you might be thinking, “but Ellie, isn’t that kinda self-centered? The world doesn’t revolve around you.”, and to that I say: wrong. The world does indeed revolve around me, it’s my life. Everyone around me will come and go, I am the only one that’s truly guaranteed to stick by my side till the end. So I remind myself constantly that no one cares because I never want to end up measuring my success or doing anything that isn’t going to benefit me and my quality of life in the long run. People don’t care if you win or lose, they’re just looking out for themselves, so you should do the same.
Now let’s dive into what I mean by “you don’t matter”. Well, I mean you don’t. You could, maybe, eventually, but right now, in the scheme of things, you don’t. Respectfully.
Remember how I said the world revolves around me? Well, it also revolves around everyone else at the same time. This is amazing because so many people, especially in high school, especially at a high school like OES, try so hard to matter to people they themselves don’t care about. For a long time, the thing I prioritized most was receiving approval from everyone and anyone around me. For years I turned into worse and worse versions of myself as I realized that, unfortunately, not everyone is able to handle the fact that I am the coolest, funniest, smartest, and most conventionally attractive person to ever walk this earth.
This plagued me until I was pushed to realize how much of an impact that attitude had on the people I thought I was closest to at the time. Turns out when all you care about is proving how much you matter, you tend to become someone that doesn’t matter! When I truly internalized that fact, that is when I finally began to turn into a better person. That is when my whole world opened up, because if I didn’t matter, then neither did my faults or unrealistic expectations of myself.
I am now able to focus on what makes me happy above all else, and as long as I’m not hurting anyone while doing that, I stay #winning. I told you I turned into Master Oogway.
So take my words of wisdom and apply them to every facet of your life. While your parents, teachers, and haters may not like this newfound attitude… it doesn’t matter and no one cares.